Not a Holy City specific issue but this is an age old question, one I have debated many times over the years. According to When Harry Met Sally – the answer is no, but as a girl who has always been “one of the guys”, I used to adamently argue that it is possible.
Every friendship is different and there are no rules. I consider myself to be a good and loyal friend but I also have high expecatations of my friends in return. Over the years, I have had a number of very good guy friends – the friendship always began when they were single and not all of them survived when the guy partnered up or got married. A good male friend of mine recently got married and I love his wife evenmore for recognizing me as part of his life and encouraging my friendship with her husband to continue in the same way it was before. I think the key to such a platonic male/female frienship is simple – neither of us were ever interested in the other physically or romantically – our friendship exists on an equal plain.
Unfortunately, that is not always true. I have lost guy friends in the past because the new girlfriend felt threatened by our friendship and couldn’t believe that I didn’t want more from him. After all, as far as she was concerned, he is the best catch in the world. Much as I was upset by this, I let the friendships go, but I never understood why the guys didn’t have the balls to stand up to their partner and fight for our friendship!
As I get older, I value my platonic guy friends more and more – they bring a certain balance to my life. But I also find that it is not easy making new platonic friends when my main focus in life is meeting a guy to settle down with.
I do not really have an answer to this question but I would love to hear what others think about it!